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. You don't call them much

Time just flits by, and you realize it's been a month since you last called your parents to check on them or to share what's happening in your life. You may be thinking, well, they can call me anytime they want. There's no question; parents need to call their children, as well.

Here's the thing, they don't know your schedule, and they don't want to interrupt you at the wrong time. Or they don't want to trouble you with their problems. And yet, they want you to care. You need to take the initiative and call them, at least some of the time. Even just a short call to see how they are feeling. Ask them what they did that day then share what you are doing. Be sure to include some good news. Too often, the only news shared is the bad. Being in on at least part of your life will bring them more happiness than you can imagine. If they lay on a lot of unwanted advice, just say, "Thanks, Dad, I appreciate your concern. I was just thinking about you and wanted to know how you're doing." Don't forget to say, "I love you." That's music to their hearts.



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2. You ask them for money

Some kids only call when they need money. Don't do that. In fact, don't ask them for money at all. You're an adult and capable of providing for yourself and family. Your parents have worked hard for what they have, and they deserve to keep it for their needs. As their lives wind down they have no idea what expenses lie ahead. They need that retirement nest egg for the unknown. It's comforting to them to have that security. We know some children who've bled their parents dry, and then when the day came and the parents needed the money to live on it was gone. That's not fair. Don't ask your parents for money. If you owe them for some you've already "borrowed," pay it back as soon as you can. Lovingly help them protect what's theirs. They need to be able to enjoy it in their later years.


3. You forget their birthdays

Parents love to be remembered on their special day. It doesn't have to be a fancy celebration, just a remembrance. You know how you feel when you receive a gift from them. They aren't much different. They like it, too. Find out the things they enjoy. A young couple we know gives their parents a gift card to their favorite restaurant, and they thoroughly enjoy it. If you don't have the money for a gift, you surely have the money for a card. Receiving a card in the mail from an out-of-town child brightens any parent's day. A phone call is great, too. If you live nearby, drop by with a hug and good wishes. Let them know you're thinking of them, and wish them a happy birthday. You might even add, "I'm sure glad you were born. I love you, Mom." Some children invite the family over to celebrate a special birthday. Turning 70 is a lot more fun when you're surrounded by those you love.


4. You don't offer them your help

You may be thinking, hey, I told Dad to let me know if there's anything I can do for him, but he hasn't told me of anything. He's probably hesitating because he thinks you're too busy, or he's afraid you didn't really mean it. How about suggesting something to him? Look around and see the needs. Older people are advised to stay off ladders because their balance is impaired, and it's too risky. How about offering to come over, climb that ladder and clean out their rain gutters. A friend's son recently did that for his parents, and they were extremely grateful for the help. A little help from you will go a long way in helping your parents feel loved.



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5. You don't include them in your family events

They don't need to be included in everything but for the main events, invite them. They want to be part of special occasions, such as holiday dinners, a baptism, a concert your child is in, weddings or a vacation. Let them enjoy being with you and your family when it fits. Sometimes just an invitation to Sunday dinner at your house will brighten their day. If they invite you and your family over for dinner, accept the invitation and show up.



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Is this what you want?

Look at how you are treating your parents and ask yourself if this is the way you want your children to treat you when they're grown. They are learning how by watching the way you treat your parents. It's a lesson they won't forget. If you're not measuring up, it's not too late. You can make a change this very day. Begin by picking up the phone and calling your parents right now.

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. Bạn không gọi cho họ nhiềuThời gian chỉ flits bởi, và bạn nhận ra nó đã là một tháng kể từ khi bạn cuối gọi là cha mẹ của bạn để kiểm tra chúng hoặc để chia sẻ những gì đang xảy ra trong cuộc sống của bạn. Bạn có thể nghĩ, Vâng, họ có thể gọi tôi bất cứ lúc nào họ muốn. Có là không có câu hỏi; cha mẹ cần phải gọi cho các con cái của họ, như là tốt.Đây là điều, họ không biết lịch trình của bạn, và họ không muốn làm gián đoạn bạn tại thời sai. Hoặc họ không muốn làm phiền bạn với các vấn đề của họ. Và nào được nêu ra, họ muốn bạn để chăm sóc. Bạn cần phải chủ động và gọi cho họ, ít nhất một số thời gian. Thậm chí chỉ cần một cuộc gọi ngắn để xem làm thế nào họ có cảm giác. Yêu cầu họ những gì họ đã làm ngày hôm đó sau đó chia sẻ những gì bạn đang làm. Hãy chắc chắn để bao gồm một số tin tức tốt. Quá thường xuyên, những tin tức chỉ chia sẻ là xấu. Đang ở trên ít nhất một phần của cuộc sống của bạn sẽ mang lại cho họ hạnh phúc hơn hơn bạn có thể tưởng tượng. Nếu họ đặt trên rất nhiều lời khuyên không mong muốn, chỉ nói, "cảm ơn, cha, tôi đánh giá cao mối quan tâm của bạn. Tôi đã chỉ cần suy nghĩ về bạn và muốn biết làm thế nào bạn đang làm." Đừng quên nói, "Tôi yêu bạn." Đó là âm nhạc đến trái tim của họ.Quảng cáoBáo cáo này quảng cáo 2. bạn yêu cầu họ cho tiềnMột số trẻ em chỉ gọi khi họ cần tiền. Đừng làm thế. Trong thực tế, không yêu cầu họ cho tiền ở tất cả. Bạn là một người lớn và có khả năng cung cấp cho bản thân và gia đình. Cha mẹ của bạn đã làm việc chăm chỉ cho những gì họ có, và họ xứng đáng để giữ nó cho các nhu cầu của họ. Như cuộc sống của họ gió họ không có ý tưởng những gì chi phí nằm phía trước. Họ cần mà trứng làm tổ hưu trí cho người chưa biết. Đó là an ủi cho họ có bảo mật đó. Chúng tôi biết một số trẻ đã bled cha mẹ của họ giặt, và sau đó khi ngày đến và các bậc phụ huynh cần tiền để sống nó đã biến mất. Đó là không công bằng. Đừng hỏi cha mẹ của bạn cho tiền. Nếu bạn nợ chúng cho một số bạn đã đã "mượn", phải trả nó trở lại ngay khi có thể. Yêu thương giúp họ bảo vệ những gì là của họ. Họ cần để có thể tận hưởng nó trong những năm sau đó.3. bạn quên ngày sinh nhật của họParents love to be remembered on their special day. It doesn't have to be a fancy celebration, just a remembrance. You know how you feel when you receive a gift from them. They aren't much different. They like it, too. Find out the things they enjoy. A young couple we know gives their parents a gift card to their favorite restaurant, and they thoroughly enjoy it. If you don't have the money for a gift, you surely have the money for a card. Receiving a card in the mail from an out-of-town child brightens any parent's day. A phone call is great, too. If you live nearby, drop by with a hug and good wishes. Let them know you're thinking of them, and wish them a happy birthday. You might even add, "I'm sure glad you were born. I love you, Mom." Some children invite the family over to celebrate a special birthday. Turning 70 is a lot more fun when you're surrounded by those you love.4. You don't offer them your helpYou may be thinking, hey, I told Dad to let me know if there's anything I can do for him, but he hasn't told me of anything. He's probably hesitating because he thinks you're too busy, or he's afraid you didn't really mean it. How about suggesting something to him? Look around and see the needs. Older people are advised to stay off ladders because their balance is impaired, and it's too risky. How about offering to come over, climb that ladder and clean out their rain gutters. A friend's son recently did that for his parents, and they were extremely grateful for the help. A little help from you will go a long way in helping your parents feel loved.AdvertisementReport this ad 5. You don't include them in your family eventsThey don't need to be included in everything but for the main events, invite them. They want to be part of special occasions, such as holiday dinners, a baptism, a concert your child is in, weddings or a vacation. Let them enjoy being with you and your family when it fits. Sometimes just an invitation to Sunday dinner at your house will brighten their day. If they invite you and your family over for dinner, accept the invitation and show up.ReadCall your parentsIs this what you want?Look at how you are treating your parents and ask yourself if this is the way you want your children to treat you when they're grown. They are learning how by watching the way you treat your parents. It's a lesson they won't forget. If you're not measuring up, it's not too late. You can make a change this very day. Begin by picking up the phone and calling your parents right now.