Chapter 11AFFORMATIONS ONOVERCOMING BAD HABITSLife’s most urgent question is: what are you doing for others?– Martin Luther King, Jr.What are “habits” and what makes them “good” or “bad”? Simply put, a habit is something you do repeatedly, usually without thinking about it.For example, many people have habits like waking up in the morning,bathing, eating breakfast, driving to work, working, coming home,eating dinner, and going to bed at night.These seem like perfectly normal habits. However, it’s just as importantto look at HOW you do these things as WHAT you are doing.For example, let’s say you’re going to work in the morning. Thequestion is: HOW are you performing that simple habit? Are you doingit grudgingly or gratefully, happily or heavily, agitated or at ease? Doyou say things like, “Another day, another dollar…” “Back to the ol’grind…” “$#*&@ing office…” or “Gosh, I really love my job!” (Hey,stop laughing!)Now let’s say you’re at work. The question is: HOW are you performingyour duties at work? Are you procrastinating on that big project thatneeds to be done? Are you pointing the finger at other people andsaying, “That’s not my job!” Or, are you going through your checklistand getting things done when they need to get done? What WORDSare you using to describe your day, and how do those words cause youto feel and respond?Now let’s say you’re coming home. Are you staying as long as possibleat the office, so you can avoid what you think you’ll come home to?Do you call home and say something like, “Sorry honey, it’s gonna beanother late night…” Or, do you leave the office at a reasonable hourand arrive home with a sense of peace, knowing you’re in a safe place?There are three main kinds of habits:1. Habits of THOUGHT.2. Habits of WORD.3. Habits of ACTION.In life, your actions stem from your words, which come from yourthoughts. The interesting thing about your thoughts (your beliefs),as we’ve seen in this book, is that you have two levels of thought—conscious and subconscious. So you might think you’re thinking onekind of thought, when in reality—and unbeknownst to you—you’rereally thinking another.Disempowering thoughts lead to habits we normally call “bad”. Theseare habits like: procrastination, overeating, overspending, and grindingyour teeth; taken to an extreme, bad habits can lead to addictions likegambling, smoking, taking drugs, andso on.When we look at habits in this way, badhabits are caused by disempoweringthoughts—thoughts like, “Why do I haveto do this?” or “Why can’t I do what I wantto do?”Seen in this light, bad habits are actuallya way to avoid feeling pain (the pain ofrejection, the pain of failure, the pain of facing reality, etc.). Bad habitsand addiction are really the soul’s way of hiding from itself.Bad habitsand addictionare the soul’sway of hidingfrom itself.A reader sent me the following story:Noah, I saw your interview on TV and requested that thestation have you on again!I must also tell you that several weeks ago, I spoke aboutyour book The Secret Code of Success and the wisdom itprovides to about 25 people in my company division.Today I saw some of those same people and they are usingAfformations. One even told me I saved his life by tellinghim about your book.He quit smoking five weeks ago, and credits your bookfor doing so. Now every time he gets the urge, he askshimself, “Why did I quit smoking?”He always gets the answers to support his decision andthus fends off the temptation.As for myself, my business has improved dramaticallysince I read your book and started using Afformations.Thank you so much!In my coaching practice with clients, we don’t use the words “good”or “bad” to describe habits. We use the words “productive” and“unproductive”. Productive habits move us toward what we want,while unproductive habits move us awayfrom what we want.For example, most people say theywant to be happy, healthy, and wealthy.However, habits like procrastination andoverspending do not move you towardthose goals; they move you away fromthem.Therefore, when thinking about yourown habits, see if they are moving you toward what you say you want,If you don’tchange yourACTIONS, youwon’t changeyour results.or away from it… and adjust accordingly.Remember, The Afformations Method is based on science, not magic.You cannot simply say these new questions, then continue to do thesame things you’ve always done, and expect your life to change. If youdon’t change your ACTIONS, you won’t change your results.However, if your disempowering questions are keeping you stuck inhabits that are taking you away from what you want, using Afformationscan be a great first step to change your thoughts … then change yourwords … then change your actions … which can ultimately changeyour life.Use the following Afformations to help you overcome procrastination,overeating, overspending, or any other bad habit you’d
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