A Relationship with a Romantic Soul

A Relationship with a Romantic Soul
The keynote of your relationship with Duc is erotic feeling. The word eros, which comes from the Greek, is not necessarily the same as sexuality - although it is very likely that you and your partner are both powerfully affected by the ambience of sexual attraction which permeates your relationship. Erotic feeling also encompasses qualities of sensuous affection and natural courtesy and kindness, and can also include a deep appreciation of beauty, harmony and style. All these things are likely to be present in the emotional tone of your partnership. The attributes of good taste and aesthetic feeling help to give the relationship a gloss of grace and even glamour in the eyes of others; for there is probably a kind of constant courtship occurring between you and your partner, invoked by the erotic qualities of the bond, which makes you both want to be desirable for each other and act in kind and considerate ways. Others are likely to appreciate the seriousness of your relationship, because as a couple you tend, consciously or not, to project an ambience of tenacity and stability to the outside world. Although it is unlikely that you would air more emotive issues in public (there is a little too much control and self-containment in the image this relationship projects), as a couple you are good communicators and can express your seriousness and the importance of your commitment to each other in practical ways which reflect a tenacity and security you may be far from feeling at the time. There is a polished and somewhat conventional quality to this public persona, which reflects a certain detachment within the relationship itself - despite the fact that the two of you may be feeling anything but detached at that moment. But no one is likely to miss the mental stimulation you provide each other, nor your evident commitment to building a solid and reliable container for your partnership in the outer world.
You may find that the sensuous and even indulgent tone of the relationship propels both of you into shopping sprees and a greater concern for outer appearances, because the love of beauty and the need to look beautiful for each other are likely to be important components of the bond. The relationship may make you and your partner both delight in the feeling of being in love and beloved - a need for the heightened rituals of romance which usually belong to literature more than to ordinary life. Any pursuit of joint creative projects, as well as travel and the exploration of philosophical and spiritual terrain, can help to enhance the sense of closeness between you. At its best, the erotic qualities of your relationship can bring a little of the fairy-tale world into both your lives, and can keep the spark of romance alive despite increasing familiarity and the passage of time.
Because of your need to experience a deeper purpose in life and your longing to be "taken out of yourself" through love, you may find that your relationship with Duc leaves you feeling quite ambivalent much of the time. The strongly romantic ambience of the relationship, with its emphasis on an almost stylised kind of love, will probably appeal to your own romantic spirit and could contribute a great deal to your quest to find a deeper meaning in ordinary life. However, the earthier, more sensual qualities of the bond may pose you with quite a challenge. Although at first you may find the strongly erotic tone of the relationship exciting and rewarding because of its magic, you are in fact more at home in the mental and imaginal world than you are in the world of the body and instincts, and you may over time find the powerful sexual emphasis of the relationship somewhat threatening. Because erotic love is a fundamental aspect of what you and your partner create between you, it needs to be honoured and given expression within the relationship even if you have been together for many years. If this dimension of the partnership is neglected because you undervalue the body and overvalue the spirit, trouble will inevitably ensue, most likely through the time-honoured catalyst of the "eternal triangle". But if you allow the relationship to work its alchemy on you, you may find that you are able to find a greater harmony between "higher" and "lower", and can experience the meaning and beauty of love more fully on both levels of life.
The difficulty with such an emphasis on style, beauty and romance is that, if you and your partner are not able to maintain a balance between the romantic dream and the reality, you may both begin to believe that other elements have no place in a loving relationship. The erotic emphasis of the partnership may affect you so strongly that you begin to aestheticise love, and the two of you may find yourselves stifling conflicts and differences beneath a beautiful veneer of stylised behaviour. You and Duc may run the risk of becoming one of those couples who never quarrel, until the really big quarrel comes along which blows everything apart. Also, because the relationship tends to invoke quite a self-indulgent atmosphere, the two of you may become rather addicted to seeing yourselves mirrored so beautifully in each other's eyes; and if you begin to identify with this rather narcissistic component of the relationship, you may easily find yourselves disappointed and disillusioned when the inevitable "off" day arrives. Erotic love can be as addictive as cocaine, for it is a kind of "high"; and if you become too fond of the experience for its own sake, you may find that, when the intensity slackens, you try to recapture it through setting up a triangle, either in a flirtatious or a much more serious way. Such a situation, with its accompanying jealousy and tension, can often recreate the romantic ambience which time erodes; but it may also backfire badly, and create great bitterness and mistrust. If you and your partner cannot air your ordinary day-to-day grievances, pains, annoyances and human needs because you are trying so hard to aspire to a beautiful ideal, then one or both of you may begin to feel deeply unappreciated at a more basic level, and this may set the scene for future trouble. The dilemma with a relationship centred upon erotic feeling is that, if this wonderful feeling is not constantly fed by both partners, it has an unpleasant way of transferring itself elsewhere.

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Một mối quan hệ với một linh hồn lãng mạnThe keynote of your relationship with Duc is erotic feeling. The word eros, which comes from the Greek, is not necessarily the same as sexuality - although it is very likely that you and your partner are both powerfully affected by the ambience of sexual attraction which permeates your relationship. Erotic feeling also encompasses qualities of sensuous affection and natural courtesy and kindness, and can also include a deep appreciation of beauty, harmony and style. All these things are likely to be present in the emotional tone of your partnership. The attributes of good taste and aesthetic feeling help to give the relationship a gloss of grace and even glamour in the eyes of others; for there is probably a kind of constant courtship occurring between you and your partner, invoked by the erotic qualities of the bond, which makes you both want to be desirable for each other and act in kind and considerate ways. Others are likely to appreciate the seriousness of your relationship, because as a couple you tend, consciously or not, to project an ambience of tenacity and stability to the outside world. Although it is unlikely that you would air more emotive issues in public (there is a little too much control and self-containment in the image this relationship projects), as a couple you are good communicators and can express your seriousness and the importance of your commitment to each other in practical ways which reflect a tenacity and security you may be far from feeling at the time. There is a polished and somewhat conventional quality to this public persona, which reflects a certain detachment within the relationship itself - despite the fact that the two of you may be feeling anything but detached at that moment. But no one is likely to miss the mental stimulation you provide each other, nor your evident commitment to building a solid and reliable container for your partnership in the outer world.You may find that the sensuous and even indulgent tone of the relationship propels both of you into shopping sprees and a greater concern for outer appearances, because the love of beauty and the need to look beautiful for each other are likely to be important components of the bond. The relationship may make you and your partner both delight in the feeling of being in love and beloved - a need for the heightened rituals of romance which usually belong to literature more than to ordinary life. Any pursuit of joint creative projects, as well as travel and the exploration of philosophical and spiritual terrain, can help to enhance the sense of closeness between you. At its best, the erotic qualities of your relationship can bring a little of the fairy-tale world into both your lives, and can keep the spark of romance alive despite increasing familiarity and the passage of time.Because of your need to experience a deeper purpose in life and your longing to be "taken out of yourself" through love, you may find that your relationship with Duc leaves you feeling quite ambivalent much of the time. The strongly romantic ambience of the relationship, with its emphasis on an almost stylised kind of love, will probably appeal to your own romantic spirit and could contribute a great deal to your quest to find a deeper meaning in ordinary life. However, the earthier, more sensual qualities of the bond may pose you with quite a challenge. Although at first you may find the strongly erotic tone of the relationship exciting and rewarding because of its magic, you are in fact more at home in the mental and imaginal world than you are in the world of the body and instincts, and you may over time find the powerful sexual emphasis of the relationship somewhat threatening. Because erotic love is a fundamental aspect of what you and your partner create between you, it needs to be honoured and given expression within the relationship even if you have been together for many years. If this dimension of the partnership is neglected because you undervalue the body and overvalue the spirit, trouble will inevitably ensue, most likely through the time-honoured catalyst of the "eternal triangle". But if you allow the relationship to work its alchemy on you, you may find that you are able to find a greater harmony between "higher" and "lower", and can experience the meaning and beauty of love more fully on both levels of life.The difficulty with such an emphasis on style, beauty and romance is that, if you and your partner are not able to maintain a balance between the romantic dream and the reality, you may both begin to believe that other elements have no place in a loving relationship. The erotic emphasis of the partnership may affect you so strongly that you begin to aestheticise love, and the two of you may find yourselves stifling conflicts and differences beneath a beautiful veneer of stylised behaviour. You and Duc may run the risk of becoming one of those couples who never quarrel, until the really big quarrel comes along which blows everything apart. Also, because the relationship tends to invoke quite a self-indulgent atmosphere, the two of you may become rather addicted to seeing yourselves mirrored so beautifully in each other's eyes; and if you begin to identify with this rather narcissistic component of the relationship, you may easily find yourselves disappointed and disillusioned when the inevitable "off" day arrives. Erotic love can be as addictive as cocaine, for it is a kind of "high"; and if you become too fond of the experience for its own sake, you may find that, when the intensity slackens, you try to recapture it through setting up a triangle, either in a flirtatious or a much more serious way. Such a situation, with its accompanying jealousy and tension, can often recreate the romantic ambience which time erodes; but it may also backfire badly, and create great bitterness and mistrust. If you and your partner cannot air your ordinary day-to-day grievances, pains, annoyances and human needs because you are trying so hard to aspire to a beautiful ideal, then one or both of you may begin to feel deeply unappreciated at a more basic level, and this may set the scene for future trouble. The dilemma with a relationship centred upon erotic feeling is that, if this wonderful feeling is not constantly fed by both partners, it has an unpleasant way of transferring itself elsewhere.